The Pleasure Bucket: Banking on Intimacy

What if your relationship had its own bank account—not for bills, groceries, or emergencies—but purely for pleasure?

Welcome to the concept of the Pleasure Bucket.

This isn’t a metaphor. The Pleasure Bucket is a literal, dedicated bank account with a debit card attached. Its sole purpose? To fund intimate joy—those delicious, indulgent, often-neglected moments that bring you and your partner closer, sexier, and more connected.

Why Create a Pleasure Bucket?

Too often, pleasure is the first thing to get sacrificed in the chaos of life. The kids, the mortgage, the deadlines, the routines—they all pile up. Intimacy becomes something you have to plan, rather than something you crave. But what if you planned for pleasure the same way you planned your bills?

That’s where the Pleasure Bucket comes in. It’s a sensual savings account that says:

“We’re not just making room for intimacy—we’re budgeting for it.”

How does the Pleasure Bucket get spent?

Anything that sparks connection, desire, laughter, and touch. Some ideas:

• Lingerie that makes you feel powerful, sexy, and seen

• A boutique hotel room for one night away from the world

• A secluded cabin with a log fire and no phone reception

• A couples massage and spa booking

• Massage oil, lube, and candles that turn your bedroom into a temple

• A surprise toy or two that changes the tempo

• Tickets to a burlesque show, or a couples tantra workshop, Shibari course, or intimate photography lesson.

• A private couples dance at a Strip Club

• That perfect silk robe or babydoll.

No guilt. No justification. This is an account where pleasure is the only valid expense.

How to Set It Up

1. Open a separate bank account. Give it a sexy name if you like (I call mine 'Pleasure Machine' after my partners nickname to me).

2. Link a debit card. You’ll want easy access when inspiration strikes.

3. Set up an automatic direct transfer into the account. Pick an amount that works for you—$20, $50, $100 a week. It doesn’t have to be much.

4. Make it non-negotiable. Treat it like any other bill. You won’t notice it leaving your main account, but you will notice the impact.

5. Use it regularly. Even just the anticipation of spending from the Pleasure Bucket can get the mental foreplay started.
   

The Benefits Go Deeper

It’s not just about buying things—it’s about prioritising each other. You’re sending a signal to your partner (and yourself) that you are prioritising your joint pleasure expanding the limits of your sexual health:

“This part of our relationship matters. It’s worth effort. It’s worth money. It’s worth attention.”

Intimacy thrives when it’s nurtured. The Pleasure Bucket is a weekly deposit into your shared erotic life—a small, consistent act that builds desire, curiosity, and connection.

So go ahead. Set one up. Fill it with intention. And let it overflow in all the right ways.

Start today. Your orgasm quota will thank me.

You're welcome.

Shelby Silk - Sexual Muse