Erotic Obsessions: A Chat Room with your partner to Set You on Fire

Let me let you in on one of my favourite erotic hacks—a private chat room, just for the two of you.

I’m not talking about your usual everyday banter. I’m talking about a secret digital lair, a locked space where only one thing is allowed: your sexual connection. That’s it. No shopping lists, no discussion about the kids, no “did you take the bin out?” This space is reserved purely for erotic thoughts, filthy flirting, cheeky photos & selfies, fantasies, and raw, unfiltered sexual expression.

I call mine Erotic Obsessions. And it’s exactly that.

Set it up using WhatsApp. Create a group chat with just the two of you. Then lock it down. Go to the group info, tap "Encryption" > "Lock this chat with Face ID or passcode", so it’s for your eyes only—even if someone else picks up your phone.

Lock it down with Face ID and / PIN

Now make it yours:

• Give it a name that drips with sex appeal. Dirty Talk, Our Desires, Obey & Play, The Red Room, Erotic Expressions, or something sexy only your partner and you will understand…that makes your thighs clench when you see it.

• Set a custom notification tone in Group Info > Notifications > Alert Tone. Something that doesn’t blend in with your regular alerts. That way, when it pings mid-meeting or on your lunch break… your body reacts before your brain does, like Ivan Pavlov’s dogs.

• Choose a background that oozes erotic energy—maybe one of your favourite photos together, something suggestive and beautiful, or even a moody black-and-white nude that sets the tone.

Then… start using it.

Shelby's Chatroom Vibe

A flash of skin in the mirror. A whispered fantasy in text form. A suggestive meme. A voice note dripping in want. A suggestion for something you would like worn tonight, or details of your sexy date that has been arranged. You don’t have to be on it all the time, but every time you drop something in that space, it adds fuel to a fire that will build all day (and night).

This is more than sexting. It’s erotic intimacy with intention. It’s foreplay in digital form. It’s showing your partner: I want you, even when we’re not together.

And trust me, when that custom alert tone pings… and you start salivating, you’ll both be counting down the minutes until you next experience each other.

Try it. Erotic Obsessions might just become your new favourite room in the house!

You can thank me later. Shelby Silk