Squirting: A Gentle Guide to Encouraging It

A follow-up to “Squirting: What’s Really Going On?”

Sexual pleasure is a spectrum; squirting is one beautiful shade of it

If you’ve read my previous post about the physiology of squirting, you’ll know it’s a natural — and for some, incredibly pleasurable — sexual response. The science is fascinating, but the experience itself is personal, physical, and often deeply emotional.

Not everyone will squirt, and that’s perfectly normal. But if you or your partner are curious to explore it, there are ways to encourage it in a way that feels safe, connected, and exciting.

Step 1: Remove the Pressure

Squirting isn’t something that happens on command for most people. The more you focus on “making it happen,” the less likely it is to occur. The aim should be pleasure and connection first — the rest is a bonus.

Step 2: Build Deep Arousal

This isn’t about rushing straight to the G-spot. Take your time with extended kissing, teasing, and whole-body touch. The pelvic floor and vaginal tissues respond best when fully aroused, and blood flow is increased throughout the area.

Step 3: Find the Right Spot

The area most associated with squirting is the anterior vaginal wall — a couple of inches inside, toward the belly button. It often feels slightly textured or ridged compared to the smooth surrounding tissue. Curved fingers using a “come hither” motion, combined with steady pressure, can stimulate this zone effectively.

Step 4: Combine External & Internal Stimulation

For many, internal G-spot stimulation alone isn’t enough. Pair it with clitoral stimulation — either from a partner’s hand, mouth, or a toy — to increase arousal and create a build-up that feels both intense and irresistible.

Step 5: Embrace the Urge to Pee

This is the point where many stop, thinking they need the bathroom. In most cases, that sensation is actually the bladder filling with diluted fluid in preparation for squirting. Relaxing the pelvic floor muscles and allowing that release is key.

Step 6: Let Go — Literally

The more the recipient can relax, breathe deeply, and surrender to sensation, the more likely squirting will happen. This is where trust with a partner is invaluable. Feeling safe enough to lose control is as important as physical technique.

Step 7: Expect Mess (and Laugh About It)

If it happens, it can be a little wet. Towels, waterproof sheets, or even just laying down a blanket can take away any worry and keep things playful.

Final Thoughts: Squirting can feel like a wave of release — for some, more emotionally intense than a “regular” orgasm. For others, it might never happen, and that’s just as valid. Sexual pleasure is a spectrum; squirting is one beautiful shade of it.

The secret? Curiosity, patience, and a partner who knows this is a journey, not a race. And if that journey leads to a wet, giggly, deeply satisfied ending — all the better.

Make me loose myself, make me water (Tyla)

Dr Jen